For My Blog Stalker

Who has nothing nice to say, especially about my well-rounded ass, I've done some homework for you. If this doesn't work, seek professional help immediately; if not for yourself but for the family you spread your toxic around.

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Your green eyed monster is destructive and should be quelled.

To test your green-eyed monster meter, answer these questions:

Do you always compare yourself to others?
Are you always coming up short?
Do you gloat when you think you outdid others?
When someone else succeeds, do you feel angry or spiteful?
Do others seem to always get what you want?
Do you wish you were somebody else?
Do you enjoy making others jealous of what you have or do?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, change is in order. While occasional competitive feelings can drive you to be your best, they cross the line to being unhealthy if that’s all that motivates you.

Jealousy directs evil thoughts to another, but the “monster” uiltimately does more damage to yourself. It consumes your self-esteem, sabotages your confidence, and concentrates your energy on negativity.


To slay the green eyed monster:

Switch your focus from others to you. Every time envy enters your mind (of either one of your personalities), switch your attention to what you can do to make your own life happier or to get what you want.

Be realistic. You may think the “grass is always greener” but everybody’s garden has patches of brown. Even a woman who is prettier or a man more successful has his or her own troubles. Diana became a Princess but the fairy tale was a nightmare.

Develop self-confidence. The roots of jealousy come from insecurity and low self-esteem. Whenever you get flooded with thoughts that someone else is better than you, do affirmations. Immediately turn your mind to wonderful things about yourself.

Recognize, and don’t repeat, the roots of your jealousy. Did your parents always compare you to your siblings or their friends’ children, asking, Why can’t you be as well-behaved as your sister, or get as good grades as the neighbor’s child? Living up to the Joneses was their problem, not yours.

Don’t constantly tell others that someone else is prettier, smarter, or more successful. Ultimately they might believe you.

Notice what it is about others that you envy (their confidence, style, attitude) and develop those traits as much as you can. What you admire in others is often what you really want for yourself. If you envy someone else’s personality, decide, “What can I play up about my good personality that people like?”

Change your belief system. Remember:

Someone having more than you does not mean you have less.

Other people have special qualities, so do you.

The more abundance around you, the more resources available for you. Live a life of abundance and you’ll have all you need and won’t have to be looking over your shoulder at others.